Interesting comment by Seth...I agree we drop clues about ourselves all the time. I remember someone saying once that we as people aren't as private and reclusive as we think, in fact we kind of leak. So, yes, I see that in a way we have already negotiated sexuality with each other. In every conversation we have passed clues back and forth. It is exactly those cues you speak of that identify us as we talk or even as we are silent. Perhaps this is how we find friends...or acquaintances with whom we are comfortable, by finding ways not to be silent with each other, to find ways to share our days and the emotions found therein. I have often thought that what is so difficult for us is the commonplace stuff. How hard to not be able to walk hand in hand with the one we love or to share the joy of it.